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If you're new to strap-ons, a harness with an adjustable fit and a dildo you're comfortable with is a good place to start. Think about size, shape and how you plan to use it. There's no need to start with anything particularly large. Take your time choosing something that suits you and your partner.

Start by checking the harness measurements against your waist and hip size. Look for adjustable straps so you can get a comfortable, secure fit. Some harnesses offer more flexibility than others, so check the individual product details rather than relying on standard clothing sizes. The right fit should feel secure without digging in.

A traditional strap-on uses a harness to hold the dildo in place. A strapless strap-on has an internal section designed to be held by the wearer, with an external section for their partner. Despite the name, strapless options may still need additional support during use. Which works best comes down to personal preference and comfort.

There's no single type of toy that works for everyone. Vibrators and suction toys can be used individually or during partnered play, while strap-ons and dildos offer other options. Think about the kind of contact each person enjoys, whether you want to use toys together or take turns, and talk about preferences before choosing.

Condoms and dental dams are useful barriers to consider during partnered play. Dental dams are designed for oral contact, while condoms can be used over compatible toys. If you're sharing toys, check the cleaning instructions and change barriers between partners or uses as appropriate. Our collection includes both alongside toys and lube.