Strap-ons

All-in-one is simpler and a great first purchase if you are not sure how much you will use it. Modular is the better long-term call if you think you will be using strap-ons regularly - the ability to swap dildos as preferences change is genuinely useful. The Bound to Please Beginner Set and the Strap-on-Me Curious are both excellent first purchases at very different price points.

Yes, both for couples play and for use on a partner who would benefit from the angle or shape a strap-on provides. Strapless harnesses also work well here. The Strap-on-Me brand makes harnesses that are well-cut for a range of body types.

Smaller than you think. A 5-6 inch insertable length and 1.25 inches in diameter is a comfortable starting size for most beginners. Going larger does not equal better and often means a toy that does not see much use. You can always size up later.

Most fabric harnesses are spot clean only - check the care label. Leather harnesses should be wiped with a damp cloth and conditioned occasionally. Silicone or coated harnesses can be washed with mild soap and warm water. Always remove the dildo before cleaning the harness, and wash the dildo separately.

Most harnesses use a 1.5 inch O-ring opening and accept most flared-base dildos within that diameter range. Larger or non-flared dildos may not fit. Each harness page lists the O-ring sizes it includes, and most modular sets ship with multiple ring sizes for flexibility.