A bullet vibrator is a useful choice when you want a compact toy for external stimulation that you can position precisely. The best one for you depends on its tip, controls and how the vibration feels. Start by comparing those details, then look at charging, cleaning and the amount you want to spend. Start with […]
Some antidepressants can affect sexual desire, arousal or orgasm. SSRIs are one group associated with these effects, although people's experiences differ. Depression, anxiety, other medicines and physical health can also affect sex, so a change is worth discussing with the person who prescribes your medication. Keep taking your medicine as prescribed while you seek advice. […]
Under-bed restraints are worth considering if you want a set of cuffs that stays anchored to the bed while you play. The useful details are the strap layout, the fit of the cuffs and how quickly you can release them. Choose a set with clear instructions for your bed, then practise fitting and opening it […]
Mismatched libidos means partners want sexual contact at different frequencies or times. One person might often want sex while another rarely does. You might both want it, but at times that seldom overlap. The useful starting point is understanding what each person wants, rather than deciding which level of desire is correct. Differences can be […]
Anal beads are a series of rounded sections designed for anal use. They create a different sensation from a butt plug, which usually has one wider insertable part and a narrower neck. Before using beads, check the toy's instructions, its largest bead and the external stop that is meant to stay outside your body. Choose […]
The best lube for menopause is one that feels comfortable, suits how you want to use it and works with any toys or barriers involved. There is no formula that suits everyone. If dryness also bothers you during the day, a vaginal moisturiser or medical treatment may be more relevant than changing your lubricant. Menopause […]
Responsive desire describes interest in sex that develops in response to something welcome, such as a kiss, a fantasy or pleasurable touch. Spontaneous desire describes wanting sex before that stimulation begins. You might experience both, and the pattern can change. The terms can help you describe an experience. They cannot tell you whether you should […]
If lube has left you feeling sore or irritated, choosing another bottle can be frustrating. Start with the ingredients, intended use and compatibility information. A product described as gentle, natural or organic can still irritate some people, so those words alone cannot tell you how it will feel. There is no single best lube for […]
A strap-on usually combines a harness with a dildo that attaches to it. To get started, check that the two parts fit together, adjust the harness until it stays in place comfortably, and agree with your partner how you want to use it. Take time to get used to the fit before adding penetration. There […]