Category: Pleasure

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Mismatched libidos: talking about different levels of desire

Mismatched libidos means partners want sexual contact at different frequencies or times. One person might often want sex while another rarely does. You might both want it, but at times that seldom overlap. The useful starting point is understanding what each person wants, rather than deciding which level of desire is correct. Differences can be […]

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Responsive desire: what it means

Responsive desire describes interest in sex that develops in response to something welcome, such as a kiss, a fantasy or pleasurable touch. Spontaneous desire describes wanting sex before that stimulation begins. You might experience both, and the pattern can change. The terms can help you describe an experience. They cannot tell you whether you should […]

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The orgasm gap: talking about pleasure

Straight women orgasm about 65% of the time during partnered sex; women with women, 86%. The gap is real, well documented, and closable - here is what actually moves it.

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Why can't I orgasm?

Struggling to orgasm is common and there's no single trick you've missed. What can play a part, what to try, and when to talk to a GP.

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Masturbation: finding the touch you enjoy

Keen to take your masturbation game up a notch? Whether you want to explore your body on a deeper level, improve your technique or give yourself your first ever orgasm, there are plenty of ways to satisfy yourself through solo sex.

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Different ways an orgasm can feel

Pleasure can build through clitoral touch, penetration, nipples or fantasy, and orgasms feel different for different people. Here's what actually changes the experience.